It’s a question that comes up occasionally within a singles ministry.
If you are seriously dating someone, how long should it be before you pop the question?
"When Madaline is out of the house I want to date, but I don't know how." Samantha has been divorced for only a year, but would like to start dating again even though her two boys are still in elementary school.
Like Jennifer, she needs some advice but is concerned about how she can make the transition into dating easy on her children. He'd like to date again, and some of his friends say he should start looking for a woman now — after all, he's getting divorced soon.
When Becky was invited to lunch by a man she met at a bookstore, she was excited.
But for most, the issue of dating involves "romantic attraction and desire." Therefore "dating" must be approached by what the Scripture says regarding romantic desire and marriage, the only relationship in which romantic desire is to be fully expressed.
Jennifer's, Samantha's and John's concerns are common, because according to the U. Census Bureau, 19.3 million Americans get divorced each year, and many of them date and eventually remarry.
It shows how Christ loved the church and laid down His life for her. No one besides the Lord will come before the person you are going to marry. You have to say no to everyone else when it comes to your spouse. Do you listen to His conviction or do you do what you want to do? Run to Christ and whoever is keeping up with you introduce yourself. God will replace the person He has taken away with someone better. You must keep your eyes on Christ and pray for His peace and comfort when you are single because you will kill yourself if you are constantly thinking about it. Sometimes God uses singleness to drive you in prayer.
The world teaches that you are supposed to put your kids and your parents before your spouse. We are so quick to say I believe the Lord has given me this person. If the person is not Christian, then the Lord didn’t give you that person. Many people get into relationships and when they break up they find out that they were not really in love. Not only are you to lead each other by the way you live your life, but you have to worship together. You will start saying, “maybe I’m too this, maybe I’m too that, maybe I need to start looking like this, maybe I need to buy that.” That is idolatry and of the devil. He wants you to keep on knocking and one day He is going to say, “enough, you want it?
In fact, they tended to divorce quicker than those with short courtships.
Again, there are a couple of reasons why taking too long is a bad sign: It’s not so much that people wait too long to get married, but that they stay in a relationship that never was built to last.